My x husband is dating
He had all the love and support and sunshine and rainbows and butterflies and puppies that anyone could ever ask for-and it still wasn't good enough. The truth about this man is simple: he does not know how to love. I can sit here and name every horrible thing that occurred throughout our relationship and marriage, but I don’t think you want to hear it, and frankly I have worked extremely hard to stop reliving it. The wounds on my body have healed, but the scars that have remained are deep. I’m sorry that I allowed him to believe that what he was doing to me was right for as long as I did, because now he very well could do this to you.
I’m sorry, but you and your family will never be good enough. He believes in a love and a life that isn't real, and therefore, he will never truly be happy. I’m sorry that his lies and his games were so convincing that I wholeheartedly believed him, because now he thinks they are bulletproof.
Start planning for an independent life, because it sure doesn’t sound like this one makes you happy.
But to begin examining your situation, first speak with a counselor.
He will list off all of the reasons for why he is the way he is as justification.I didn't recognize your face, or your name, but we had a few friends in common, and I definitely recognized the man standing next to you in your profile picture. I know what you’re thinking right now-crazy ex-wife is stalking your profile because you’re dating her ex-husband and she’s mad. I’m sure he has told you that he’s divorced (and some not-so-pretty “things” about me), and maybe even a little bit of his family history, and maybe even a few other quips of smaller things in his life that he has “overcome”, enough to make you feel badly for him, proud of him for where he is today, and even a little lucky for being with someone who has been through what he has. All of a sudden he will go from perfectly calm to a complete irrational hurricane in a matter of seconds-and it will be all your fault. And I can’t express to you how much I apologize to you for it.You want to find out if there is anything you are doing that is exacerbating the problems inside your relationship.Maybe there are things you can do that will redirect his emotions and sexuality back into the marriage.
He will tell you it will never happen again, but it will.